If he can do it, so can you. Good luck.

Eve sought power OVER Adam in the beginning and thus didn’t delay to make a deal with Satan to gain power over Adam. She wanted to become a “god” and legend has it that a great deal of the reason had to do with not wanting to be submissive or on the bottom during sex.

In rebellion she BIT Adam on the neck, thus becoming the first vampire, which is a major reason why women are SO obsessed with vampires, vampire movies, have vampire dreams and such. Eve thus became Lilith, known as Satans consort because instead of a woman being MAN’S HELPER as God intended, they have become by their OWN CHOICE.. Satan’s (Santas) helper instead, helping Satan to DESTROY the lives in men over and over again as these stories and millions more prove over and over again.

This is in response to your request on the National Coalition for Men website. I’ve personally been through this (fairly recently) and the only advice that I can give to you is to seek full custody of the child in question, and aggressively seek out the best legal counsel that you can buy. Expect this to be at least $3-5,000 maybe more. Do what you have to do to get this money together, but that is the bare minimum that you should expect to spend on this. This is a criminal case and requires a well respected criminal defense attorney that will be on your side through this process. I was put through this by a vengeful ex, twice, and I know the pitfalls that await you on this horrifying journey.

My first mistake was thinking “I’m innocent! I just need to talk to anyone that I can to explain my side of this story.” That is incorrect, Patti. Your loved one is guilty until proven innocent in cases like this and that is the first reality that must be understood and accepted. I naively believed that I could hire a $1,500 lawyer, and get my little girl back within a matter of weeks. I was as mad as hell, and I knew that if only given a chance to defend myself I would receive justice in the legal system, the mother who made the false allegations would be punished for accusing me of this, and my daughter and I would be back together before Christmas. This first happened to me in the middle of November. I retained a $1,500 lawyer, and the days went to weeks, and then into months with no news. The lawyer avoided my phone calls, and I left voice mail after voice mail for him and he would never call me back.

Very long story short, I didn’t see my daughter again for almost 5 months, and this was no thanks to the worthless lawyer that cost me $1,500 either. Unbelievably, when the ex and I had gone to mediation, one of the mediators actually pulled me to the side when I was outside of the office and told me that I needed to get another lawyer, that is how bad this one was. So, when I did get her back, she acted afraid of me. I can only dwell on what she may have been told about me by her mother. I have no idea what emotional trauma this little baby has suffered. She wasn’t the same happy-go-lucky little girl that I had known only several months before. This was only round one. She leveled more allegations against me one week after my now wife and I were married roughly a year after the first allegations. At this point, I knew that I needed a better attorney.

I closed out my meager 401k and borrowed another thousand from relatives. I found a good, well respected attorney in my city. I remember when I was in my first meeting with him, I was venting about this horrible person and how she needs to pay for costing me so much money, hurting my little girl, and filing false reports. He listened to me go on for quite a bit and finally, he pulled out this spreadsheet that had a row running horizontally and a row that ran vertically across the page. He said “This is what you’re being accused of” and slid his finger across the page, “and this is the amount of prison that you will get if you’re convicted of it.” His finger had landed on 25-34 years.

I was completely shocked. Until that moment, it never had dawned on me that I could actually be convicted of this. I had only assumed that if you’re innocent then the truth will be found out and the truly guilty will be punished. I had never considered until that very moment that I could actually be sent to prison. When I showed up to court to face this new round of charges and she saw that I had a new lawyer, the blood drained from her face. She knew at that moment that the ruse was up and she was facing a real player. Her attorney practically crapped in his pants too. Needless to say, the charges were dismissed. She is now paying me child support and I share 50/50 custody with her, which is about the best that you can hope for.

That doesn’t negate what she put my daughter through. It doesn’t negate the fact that she financially ruined me for several years to come. And it most definitely doesn’t negate the fact that used a very serious crime against children to push her own agenda and then goes away from it virtually unharmed. What about the little kids that actually have had something like this happen to them? If you saw allegations like this on a daily basis that turn out to be untrue, don’t you think that it would make you jaded and less trusting when that little child comes through your door that actually has had trauma inflicted on them and it’s disregarded as false because the court system sees this on a daily basis? I think that the laws against falsely accusing someone of a crime of this magnitude should be enforced to the maximum and carry very stiff sentences with them. This would cut down on this BS that clogs up the courts, and denies good men and women the right to see their children by having to defend themselves against this garbage.

There is not. I will never be able to erase my husband’s pain and he’s always going to feel it. The best I can do is be the best wife I can.

I am always ready to listen even though I might not have any advice. Sometimes, one just needs to vent.

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