Posted by John Dias in Myth: “Men are rarely victims of domestic violence.”
Fact: Half of domestic violence (”DV”) victims are men. Although men are less likely than women to call police, randomized sociological (behavior-based) research consistently shows: (1) women initiate DV as often as men do; (2) women use weapons and surprise more than men do; and (3) about 38% of physically injured DV victims are men.
Even the latest fact sheet from the Centers for Disease Control (partly from crime-based data) states: “In the United States every year, about 1.5 million women and more than 800,000 men are raped or physically assaulted by an intimate partner” (i.e., 36% of the victims are men).
Unfortunately, the DV industry has covered up female violence for decades for purely ideological reasons.
(Kelly, Linda, “Disabusing the Definition of Domestic Abuse; How Women Batter Men and the Role of the Feminist State,” 30 Fl. St. U. Law R. 791, 2003,)
Myth: “Most DV by women is in self-defense.”
Fact: Women commit DV for the same reasons men do. In a large DV study that looked at motives, men and women gave similar reasons for assaulting their partners, usually to “get through to them,” and self-defense was among their least common motives.
(Carrado, “Aggression in British Heterosexual Relationships; A Descriptive Analysis,” Aggressive Behavior, (1996) 22: 401-415.)
A 32-nation study found factors correlating with DV, such as substance abuse, jealousy and controlling behaviors, is found equally in men and women who commit DV.
In a survey of college women at California State University, Long Beach, 30% of them admitted assaulting a male partner, the most common reasons being (1) “he wasn’t listening to me,” (2) “he wasn’t being sensitive to my needs,” and (3) “I wished to gain his attention.”
(Fiebert & Gonzalez, “Why Women Assault; College Women Who Initiate Assaults on their Male Partners and the Reasons Offered for Such Behavior,” 1997, Psychological Reports, 80, 583-590, www.batteredmen.com/fiebertg.htm.)
The only DV shelter we know of that shelters male victims and their children is Valley Oasis in Lancaster, where men and their children desperately travel from hundreds of miles for shelter because nobody else will shelter them. Male victims are already reluctant to seek help due to shame, embarrassment, and lack of outreach, fear of false arrest, or fear of losing custody of their children. When male victims “take it” and don’t seek help, or are denied services, the violence often escalates until someone is injured, and children who witness it are emotionally damaged no matter how severe it is. DV is an inter generational cycle. To end it, we must first be honest about it.
Is there an effort being made to catalogue (with full documentation — medical reports, police reports, legal documents, etc) male victims of dv and/or their being denied service by shelters with the names and locations of the shelters, their Executive Directors, etc. With the advent of Woods vs. Shewry it may be possible to initiate similar proceedings in other states. Strike while the iron is hot. KY DV shelters for instance insist that they DO provide same service for men as women. The status quo would indicate otherwise.
I’m a database analyst and have worked with coroners and medical examiners for many years. I’m also a male victim of DV and of false allegations of DV. Out of curiosity, I ran some of my own database queries and found that the male/female ratio of victims of DV-related homicides was 50/50. The “official” stats from the DOJ don’t take into account, for example, a mother drowning her son in a bathtub.
Let me know if I can help!
I am currently charged with CDV. These charges have been ongoing since 23 June 2008. I have not been back in my home since… and my soon to be X wife (I’m husband number 5) is using these charges as leverage and the DA doesn’t want to pursue but can’t dismiss because of potential repurcussions and sensitivity of topic.
And my attorny wanted to let this situation run its course. I have since hired a new attorny who is also my divorce attorney.
Bottom line……. retired military officer, no prior convictions, etc……of any kind… especially CDV.
I have endured major mental duress, financial hardship, and I’m in the fight of my life. This charge, although you won’t find companies that will admit it on paper, has led to no new job offers… I have a bacheolors degree and a 23 year extremely successful military career and a strong resume……yet no job offers after over 50 employment applications for jobs I am qual’s or overqual’d for.
Any suggestions? I am broke, I am embarrassed, I am desparate.
The system in South Carolina has allowed this…… what are my rights? What can I do to reclaim my life and reputation?
Scott
I would also like to add that the DA nor the officer issuing warrant do not want to pursue….. yet they are tied by the hands that allow for the alleged victim to continue to pursue to the sensitivity of CDV…
The end result, this is now being used as leverage in divorce court. I am at my end….. and I am innocent of CDV! If someone wants a divorce……so be it.. but destroying a life… wow! Could anyone discuss?
DBA, I’ve included your comment over at our manhood101.com forum in the section “Exposing Feminism”, under the Domestic violence against men thread.
My ex wife in Oregon did essentially the same thing to me in 1995. And got the kids, alienated the kids from me, got the house. I declared bk. I am still hanging on by a thread and cannot get a proper job even now…I think there must be a record I have to try to expunge, though i committed no violence and was falsely accused of it.
You are not alone, Scott. Next time, if there is one, do not get married and do not live with anyone but another guy or just live by yourself. Oh, don’t marry a white college-educated female from the 60s or 70s. They hate us.
Wes
My brother has been falsely accused of DV. He and his girlfreind have a son 5 years old. He is the light of everyone’s life in my family and spends most all his time with us and my parents. I truely belive my brother- My newphew ismy brother’s life. My brother help to raise her son from a previous relationship- he is now 15 -my brother has raise him since he was about 5.
She has never worked. Anyhow- what does a wrongfully accused person do- She has a PFA against him- and no one can see my newphew- who knows what she’s telling him——Just show me where to geet help- HEARTbroken in PA.
RADAR ALERT: Want a Good Laugh? Check Out the SAFE Act!
Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2009-05-04 17:52.
What if you knew a bill had been introduced in Congress in which most of the findings were misleading, outdated, or simply false? Welcome to wonderful, wacky world of HR 739, the Security and Financial Empowerment Act (SAFE).
The bill contains 53 different claims. Only 4 of those claims can be verified as accurate, current, and truthful. As for the remaining 49 claims, whoever dreamed up this stuff has an incredible sense of humor!
The following bold-faced quotes come straight from the SAFE Act findings. They are followed by the actual facts. So get ready for some side-splitting humor:
“Violence against women has been reported to be the leading cause of physical injury to women.” Here’s what the website of U.S. Department of Health and Human Services shows:
Under the graph the DHHS states, “All of the leading causes of injury in 2006 were unintentional.” But domestic violence is an intentional cause of injury. In other words, DV is not even on the list of leading causes of injury.
“According to recent Government estimates, approximately 987,400 rapes occur annually in the United States”. Here’s what the FBI really says:
“In 2007, the estimated number of forcible rapes (90,427) decreased 2.5 percent from the 2006 estimate.” So the SAFE number is off by about 900,000. We’ll just call it a rounding error.
Now ready to have a real belly laugh? Check out RADAR’s critique (.pdf file) of the SAFE findings.
After you see all the misleading claims, misrepresentations, and outright falsehoods, tell your Representative that people shouldn’t be making a joke of domestic violence.
Tell your congressman to vote ‘No’ against the SAFE Act. As always, please remember to be polite.
To find your Representative’s contact information go to http://www.house.gov/ and enter your zip code in the upper left corner.
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Date of RADAR Release: May 4, 2009
R.A.D.A.R. – Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting – is a non-profit, non-partisan organization of men and women working to improve the effectiveness of our nation’s approach to solving domestic violence. http://www.mediaradar.org/.
http://news.mensactivism.org/node/12416
http://www.mediaradar.org/docs/RADARanalysis-HR739Findings.pdf
Por favor, necesito ayuda. Mi ex esposa me acosa constantemente con demandas penales por el apoyo que el tema de la violencia intrafamiliar hacia la mujer ha tenido. No me deja trabajar, ha hecho que quiebre mi empresa fundada en el 2002 ante los constantes ataques de “dame tanto$$$$ o te meto preso” ya no aguanto mas, no se donde recurrir!!!! ayudenme!!!
There are good and honest women in every age range – but it’s a risk to get involved. I realize this. What sometimes happens is that women who would otherwise never lie allow themselves to take the advice of those less scrupulous.
As far as false accusations, the ones against my husband not only included incest but domestic violence, so I understand your pain.
My heart goes out to you.
The legal system with respect to domestic violence is clearly broken from my point of view. I must note I am not innocent of wrongdoing. While I was in a relationship, my girlfriend came home drunk and I pushed her. I was charged and convicted with assault despite the fact she did not want to move forward with charges. Some time after that, I was assulted by her in my own home to the point I was bleeding and had several bruises. The police had pictures of this and the Domestic Violence Unit called me to get my statement. Thinking I was in love with her and that she said she was sorry, I told them I did not want to move forward with charges against her. They drop the charges in court and the prosecutor told her “you don’t look like someone that should be here”. Sometime after this, she let her ex-boyfriend in my home to assault me. When the police came, they talked to the ex-boyfriend and congratulated him for beating me up since I was a “domestic abuser”. There were no charges filed against him even though had a broken jaw and injured back. Several months later, she put several holes in the wall of my new home and tried to break a window. I called the police and they took pictures, statements, etc. Again I was called by the Domestic Violence Unit of the Prosecutors’ office. Again, thinking I wanted to work things out with her and that she said she was sorry, I asked them to drop the charges. And again, they did without charging her or anything.
So, in summary, the prosecting attorney’s office clearly has their sights set on convicting males involved in domestic violence but give females a “free pass”. If this isn’t a blatant example of sexual discrimination, I don’t know what is.
What also isn’t noted here is the role of mothers in DV against their children. studies show that mothers are involved in 55% of domestic abuse against their children – more than twice the rate of fathers.
Logic also dictates this to be fact – feminist propaganda worthy of Moscow 1920 dictates otherwise. Why are we living this lie?
My grandmother & mother were domestic violence women, whom are also immigrants. There are so few resources and support for them as well, and I encourage you to support immigrant men!
I am a child of a Male Suvivor and he was also abused in childhood. but as a witness to this, I know my parents relationship was abusive on both ends. And they both abused me & my brother. I was also a victim of Intimate partner violence in my teens. I am female.
It hurts. I have wondered so much if there weren’t abusive men out there. I see it so much in media i thought that’s how all of them were growing up. my heart goes out to you all.
I feel saddened for those who feel like a whimp, because I think we have the wrong perception on what it is to be a man.
I am a male victim of domestic violence. Six months ago, my wife tried to kill me with a pair of scissors, in front of our 9-year old daughter.
I called the police – they did not come. I filed a police report – no follow up.
I eventually was able to get a civil order of protection, but despite the felony crime, no charges have ever been filed. No one is interested.
I have residential custody of my daughter, but am in a custody battle with the cards stacked against me.
Does anyone know of resources in Illinois that can help me through this process, and help me provide a positive environment for my daughter through all of this?
Aaron,
If you live in Illinois then you’re screwed. I went through a long ordeal helping my boyfriend fight his ex-wife. Illinois is a “man hater” state. There is absolutely no chance of anyone doing anything for you (as a man). New York, California and Illinois are the three worst states to live in, and the feminists have completely taken control of those states, and I believe in Illinois you don’t even have to touch a woman (the woman can just say that she is “scared”) and the judge will give her a 2 year restraining order, take your kids, give her the house, money, and everything. You get tossed out on the street. I suggest you leave the state and there are no resources in Illinois to help men. VAWA only funds women only shelters, and women only legal centers and women only advocacy groups. There are only “women victim” resources, even Chicago Legal Clinic will not help any man who is charged with a false DV, because they claim that it’s a “conflict of interest” (they are funded by VAWA). All the shelters and legal clinics are only for “battered women” and the legal system in Illinois is completely lopsided with over 90% of women getting sole custody it’s unlikely that you’ll get any justice in a state like Illinois if you are a man. You’d be better of leaving the state or possibly even leaving the country, there is no hope in America with modern feminist western “women victimology” culture in America. Every feminist claims to be a victim of something. Illinois is a left-wing welfare state that feeds into that feminist ideology. In the future, don’t marry an American woman. Most American women (born in the 1960’s and 1970’s) have been poisoned by the feminist culture.
Hello All,
I am the current girlfriend (1.5 yrs) of a man who is being falsely accused of DV by his ex and mother of his 7 year old child. This woman who is actually the abuser, put a RO against him back in April 2008 after following him around town until she found him at a gas station where he stopped because he thought he had lost her. She then (5′10″ and probably over 200lbs) jumped him, bit and scratched him, broker his laptop after getting it out of the car. All this while their daughter looked on from her vehicle and people at the station witnessed on. Someone called the police and when they arrived, she accussed him of beating her but thankfully for him people attested to the contrary and she was arrested. He bailed her out and to his surprise that was his worse mistake: she went back to police station and accussed him of beating her and they went and arrested him. He who had just bailed her out for assaulting him in front of a bunch of other people! She also accussed him of assaulting their child. Its been the same story ever since, she follows him around, calls him incessantly, leaves him messages threatening him, vandalizes his property, shows up at his house/job or his sisters house if he doesnt pick up her calls, has accussed him of violating RO and which he has been in jail and currently out on $6000 bail. She also coupled up with her sister who accussed him of assaulting him and thru a bogus witness was able to also get a RO against him. And now if either of them even sees him on the street, they follow him and call the police. Yesterday actually, the siter saw a friend of his at a barber shop and immediately went to police and accussed him of violating the RO more than a week ago. A warrant for his arrest was issued and now all he thinks about is killing himself because he doesnt know how he’s going to be able to get rid of all the problems without having to go to jail first and having an even longer rap sheet, all due to this woman’s obsession with him. She says she rather see him dead than with another woman.
What I would like to know is, what can he do to defend himself from all these bogus claims and get all these charges dropped? If he has proof that she is falsely accussing him as well as her sister, can any charges be brought against them? Can he too get a RO agains them both? He has eye witnesses, text messages, emails, voice mails, recordings (audio and camera)of her following him and screaming obsceneties at him and his phone records that show that she is the one to call not the other way around. He asked for a RO back in July 09 after she showed up where he used to work and again assaulted him in front of his boss, coworkers and customers and then starting slapping their child as an example of what happens when he doesnt pick up her calls…This has gotten way out of hand and i would like to somehow find a way to help him and put an end to this crazy woman’s madness.
Thanks,
Gigi
Chris Brown is just human in such a way when being hit at several times its just natural to react back. Of course men hit harder than women but people be real, it does not make it right either for a woman to abuse a man or he will react. It’s called respect. No matter what difference you have whether man or woman, you don’t have the right to hit another person. When a man feels like you don’t respect him, he will react. They are human beings.
Control your anger before you expect others to control theirs or they will lose it too.
The Family Court System is arranged for women. It is bias against
men. Loose laws to accuse men so they can file false Protection from Abuse Orders. My ex filed a false statement then manufactured evidence. With little chance of a penalty if she gets caught. Here in Alleghneny County, Pa, organizations like Neighborhood Legal Aid make it easy to file false allegations
and then invoke penalties on men. My ex’s motive was leverage
during a petition for custody. Both Family Court and Neighborhood
Legal Aid working as one to take my rights as a parent. She did not even make the statement under oath.
My boyfriends ex girlfriend just tried to get a restraining order on him. He works for the government so it would mess up his job horribly. Luckily I was there during the conversations and he never once threatened or even lost his temper. Luckily it was all on speaker phone and I was able to testify. It was soo awsome to see her face when I walked into the court room and she was told she was on speaker phone the whole time! LOL Ahhhh justice is a great thing:)
This woman has gotten away with everything!
His son came to us with bruises on his legs (clearly finger prints)and nobody responded to our calls not even the police. Between fordging his signiture on his car title and selling it over state lines, selling his guns over state lines both without his permission while he was serving in Iraq. Fordge checks to herself while he was overseas. Crazy!
He has been fighting this for 3 years and she hasn’t even got a slap on the wrist. What is going on with this world today…I dont understand it. Any advice would be great from anyone. I have been trying to get ahold of some people but it is difficult to get anyone on the phone.
What’s going on with the world today you ask? It’s real simple. If it wasn’t for eunuch men in this country, lawmakers, police, judges, the list goes on and on kowtowing to women, allowing them to get away with this behavior, it wouldn’t be happening you have only them to thank for it and any other man who bows down to women. If men continue to tolerate it, women will continue to abuse it.
I called a couple of Domestic Violence groups in Illinois because they showed pictures of women with children. I asked them why they didn’t show men in their promotional literature. One group told me that they were funded by a grant from the state of Illinois for females and were not mandated to promote men’s rights. The second group I contacted claimed that the amount of domestic violence was negligible and that they did serve men also… I suggested that men were reluctant to report domestic violence by their spouses and that pictures of only mothers promoted men as the aggressors and inhibited men from seeking protection.
I had been a victim of domestic violence at the hands of my ex wife for 15 years, and couldn’t get any help in Lancaster County, PA. When I called the domestic violence hotline, the female counselor, asked me if I was the abuser;(because I am a man).She told me that I had to vacate the line because the domestic violence hotline was for women. I informed her that I was the victim, and also asked her ,”since when is domestic violence sexually biased? “She told me,” sir, you don’t have to be a smart ass, if you are hurt, take your sorry ass to the emergency room.” My Ex hit me in the head with a baseball bat, so I did go to the ER. But never received any mental help, or protection. I had special training in the military, so I could never retaliate while being physically abused, plus I was raised to never hit a female. My current wife was a victim for 17 years, and it is our passion to start a domestic violence ministry in our church. I’ve tried to get the news media to do a story on male victims of DV, but our local TV stations won’t even touch it. If anyone knows of anywhere in my area that helps male victims, can you please direct me to them? I would truly appreciate it.
Defrauding VAWA…
Dorothy: “The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) sounds like a very important resource and I wish I had known about it when I left an abusive marriage. If Martha is fraudulently claiming abuse, that will eventually be discovered and defrauding a charitable organization is a FELONY. This is not the first time I have heard of false accusation in that area being assumed to be true. It nearly destroyed my boyfriend’s life. His ex-wife constantly had him thrown in jail by calling in bogus reports of him making threats.”
I would love for someone to INVESTIGATE. Who can I turn to in order to start a full investigation?
If you know, do tell.
When I met her in October 2005 she was a Domestic Violence Victim and I wanted to help. After work I would drive 80 miles to her place and go shopping for her and her 3 children because they did not have any money. Then when her divorce was final I offered her and her 3 children to stay in my house.
The next almost 3 years they would live in my house. The children attended the local schools. I would deposit money in her bank account on a regular basis so she could do her own shopping while I would be traveling on business. She would get ill and I would take her to doctors. I paid several surgeries including cosmetic surgeries that she wanted. For 3 years I provided her with a house, medical services, food, money, love and much more. I helped her hide from her ABUSIVE husband and from the law.
I agreed to marry her so that she her and children would be legal in the US.
I feel like I gave her my entire life… I never imagined she would end up accusing ME of Domestic Violence.
After exactly 3 months of marriage she started a fight. Obviously she thought that 3 months of marriage would be enough a sacrifice and she could now claim domestic violence and get legal papers to stay in this country. She is used to achieving things though her lies, and I am a very honest person. The great thing about this is that she is far away. I don’t want to see her again ever.
She then went to the police to make a report. She wanted to take MY car and called the police only to find out she has no rights to it. I had made her sign a pre-nup where she agreed that she has no rights to any of my stuff and that I have full rights to manage my things as I see fit. The great thing about this is that the pre-nup was in place because a person like her does not deserve anything from me.
She told her children to steal my car keys. She called the police again to say I was harassing her and the police came to my house. The great thing about this is that I now know she is nothing but a thief and a liar. That everything she receives in her life is through lies and deception. How great it is that she is not around anymore.
She told me she had been using me all this time. She threatened to put me in jail. She sent her children to run in front of my car while I was driving it in order to stop it and she filed for a temporary protective order that was full of lies. She lied in court twice. She is nothing but a lowly criminal. She does not deserve to be around an honest and compassionate person like myself. I am so happy she is not around anymore…
How is it possible that there is a law in this country called Violence Against Women Act (VAWA)? Under this law a woman can simply claim that she is a Domestic Violence victim and she gets all the help she needs: Housing, Legal, Psychological, Medical, Employment and Immigration papers to stay in this country…
There is just one problem: The Domestic Violence shelter will require that she (and help her) file FALSE ACCUSATIONS of Domestic Violence against me and she would make these accusations in court as a petition for a Temporary Protective Order.
So it was time to pay back the favor I did to her: She used the law to HURT me. She used the law to hide her from ME. She made FALSE ACCUSATIONS of Domestic Violence against me.
Any woman can dial 211 and get in touch with a VAWA service center (a Domestic Violence shelter). They will take her away from her husband and provide her with psychological treatment. They will help her accuse her husband of Domestic Violence (or whatever she chooses to accuse him of) and they will not ask for any proof. They will also help her get a divorce and really wipe him out. They will give her a new life away from her husband including housing, education, certification, employment and much, much more.
hey my boyfriend is going through a CDV case with his ex-wife of 10 years. she said that he came over and beat the hell out of her one night and he was his his daughter and two friends the whole time. he also has a voice mail where she calle dhim and told him that she had fallen and thought that she had a seisure and may have broken her fingure. the next day she went and filed charges against him and here we are 7 months later having to pay for a lawyer to get him out of these false charges and try to take his daughter from her. he also goes throught the no contact rule crap, he does call her to check on his daughter but when she wants to be a you now what and call and text for no reason but to fuss and talk about me he tries to ignore him and then she threatens to call the police for him contacting her about his kid. so he has to sit there and play her little game until he goes to court and proves his innocence. i think this is crazy that women can do this and the laws need to change!!!! i feel for all the men going through this and i hope the best for you all.
hey all, i went through the same b.s. 10 yrs ago. a falsely filed pfa in an attempt to keep me away from my sonit it was all custody motivated. my lawyer told me to plead no contest because id never win it. so when it expired she actually tried to beat the crap out of me so i filed one on her. she violated it by leaving a nasty msg on my machine so i called the cops and they told me to file a complaint with the court. this coming after she had me arrested twice with a push of a button to the police. i was outraged and called the chief of police. he apolagized and they went to pick her up. i havnt had any more pfa’s against me thank god but now i applied for a carrying permit for my firearm and that b.s. order 10 yrs ago could very well get me denied. till this very day i am still fighting for 50/50 custody and getting denied every step of the way. my point being is that women have the courts by the balls and they know it. i can at least say in PA the system is broke. the best of luck to all of you.
I am a female and been convicted of DV by my husband. I’m an immigrant and I left the country to save my Son(My own not his), cos I know he’s up to something. I was convicted recently cos no show is guilty,means he’s under Relief, I don’t know if I can still come back to appeal the case, and follow up he filed a divorce but the thing is we didn’t got married there. He’s got some kind of mental disorders and I have a good feeling that it is a strong ground to dismiss the case. I still love him but he already destroyed our life, he accused of worst things i don’t know if he make-up evidences of course it’s easy i have my evidence too. ANyone can suggest? The Court ordered me to have DV treatments and suicide threats, and wants me to pay and he put ANY. If you will ask me I really don’t want to go back it’s just i wanted to clear my reputation. Thanks
KY is FAR from equal in handling this problem… If nothing else they BRAINWASH women.. Me and my-exgirlfriend got into it– we broke up she moved out– no violence– no hitting no nothing– just didn’t get along AT THE TIME.. Her family wouldn’t help her because they’re broke and uncaring people. SO she stayed in a shelter… After about 2 weeks I realized I love her and missed her… In that short amount of time they had her convinced I was a basher and abuser. They wouldn’t let me leave money for her- I knew she needed some– or talk too her. I NEVER PUT MY HANDS ON HER. We just didn’t get along for a short amount of time. THEY ARE BRAINWASHERS and manhaters pure and simple.
My husband of 3 years is going through the same situation right now! His ex-wife and mother of his 3 and 5 year old is psychotic!! When they were married, one weekend she wanted to go out with her friends one Saturday night and agreed to let him go out Friday night to make up for it. He went out with a buddy and had a few drinks. He came home and she was waiting for him at the front door with a leg from a coffee table. She was mad bc he was out late and she beat him with it! He left to keep from being beat anymore and she called the cops for CDV High and Aggrevated Nature (felony). He was found and arrested the next morning. He wound up doing PTI to espunge his record from that. Well now, one evening we checked the mail and found there was a warrant for his arrest for CDV. He turned himself in. She claims he came to her house and they argued and she feared for her life! NEVER HAPPENED!!!! We’re in the process of getting a trial date and all. The cop that went to her house that day says that she had NO evidence of CDV but bc she claimed it, he had to be arrested! That’s a bunch of BS in my book! We’re fighting to clear his name and get her for filing a false police claim! Our intent is to get the kids taken from her and her serve time!! This has got to stop! Its awful that a woman can get mad at her ex and call the police and immediately he has a record! And meanwhile, there are crooks and sickos out there getting away with all kinds of things!! I don’t understand!!
http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/abusegate-groups-call-for-congressional-investigation-of-domestic-violence-programs-84464442.html
I am glad to know I am not the only one…my boyfriends ex is insane! She hates that he is with me and has done anything and everything possible to keep us apart. Right after we met, she accused him of CDV and he was arrested. He spent 71 days in jail …only to go to court and the charges were dropped because they realized he did nothing wrong. ( mind u when he was arrested, she had hit him and he had a huge bruise on HIS head). Now..9 months later, he was at the same place she was , and two days later, the cops showed up to arrest him. Once again, she reported that she felt “fearful” for her life! So he is sitting there for no reason other than the fact that she is crazy. I can’t believe the laws we have and that someone can simply say they feel “fearful” and someone goes to jail!! And I’m sorry, I have been beaten up by an ex A LONG time ago, so I understand we need laws, but there has to be another way so that innocent people aren’t going to jail because of non-stable chics. There are too many people out there doing serious and life ending crimes for our jails to be filled with people that DON’T belong there. My heart goes out to all of you in my situation, because both my heart is aching, my childrens’…(whom adore my boyfriend) and and my boyfriends, who is losing days of his life for being at the wrong place and the wrong time. This country and south carolina need to figure alot out!!